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The other day I made a post on Facebook that stated my goals were to be debt free, fat free and drama free. It was met with agreement from lots of my friends and family. Its safe to say that people have a desire to free themselves from those things that no longer add value to their lives. I'm there. I've been there for awhile. One of those things for us in this household was tv. Yes add television to that list of "free from.."

When Cedrick and I got married in May 2010 (Yes our anniversary is approaching! Yes I am blogging about it! Wait for it! Ha!), we were staying with his parents in a small, rural town by the name of Cheek, Tx. It wasn't my favorite place in the world but the sunrises and sunsets were just absolutely breathtaking! Cedrick and I would sit on his parents porch in the evening, watching the sunset and dreaming of our life and our goals for our future family. A few months into our marriage, we decided to move out on our own into some beautiful apartments in Beaumont's northwest side. It was a small apartment, not even 700 square feet but it was ours. The first thing we did after getting the keys to our new apartment was go to Conn's and buy a big screen tv. Cedrick is a movie lover so he wanted something huge! I wasn't too fond of that idea but hey, anything for my new husband. We got a really good deal on it, paid for it, and bam we were now the owners of a new, flat screen tv!

That first night in our new apartment, we laid on a bare floor and watched a movie on our new television while eating pizza. It was a beautiful start to what is now a beautiful life with the love of my life.

Life has a way of teaching you what you do and don't want, right. I used to be an avid watcher of all things reality tv! My schedule was based around whatever show I was into at the time and trust me I was into ALL of them! I made sure dinner was cooked, baths were out the way and I was comfortable before my favorite show came on. I was focused on keeping up with whatever was going on in the life of these complete strangers and all the drama that came with it. My best friend and I would discuss it over lunch, me and my sisters would text about it, my co-workers and I debated about it. Imagine the thought of not living in that world.

Well I'm living in it now. Back in December, our contract with our cable provider was up and the bill was expected to increase by almost 50 dollars. Being on one income and trying to get out of debt, we made the decision to get rid of the cable. Yes we cut the cable cord!! Cedrick was onboard from the beginning. Me? It took awhile for me to accept that we didn't need cable television. To me, not having cable was saying we were broke and  struggling. I didn't want that stigma attached to us. So, I started researching all kinds of ways to cut the cable cord without cutting out the experience. Its a lot of people who have cut the cord and still get to indulge in their favorite tv shows. From different antennas to different devices and jail breaking devices, the research was plentiful. For an indecisive person like myself, it was information overload. I finally dragged myself away from researching and reached out to friends via social media to see which route they took. Many subscribed to several streaming services to get the best experience. So we subscribed to Netflix, Amazon Prime and later to CBS all access to watch one of our shows live. Those subsciptions cost us less than 30 dollars a month, plus the cost of internet and we pay less than 100 dollars a month, saving us about 50 dollars had we decided to continue with our contract with our cable provider.

Here's the thing: we do not watch tv. For the past 3 days, the television you see in the picture, has not been turned on. On Fridays, we have movie night and we'll pick from a Netflix movie or rent one. I do not keep up with anything reality tv. I do not watch any awards shows, sports, none of it matters to me anymore. Caleb has his shows and sometimes we'll turn on his tv in his room and let him watch a cartoon or two on Netflix. Outside of that, we don't care to turn on our tv. Its been amazing. We sit at the dinner table and talk about our day and current events. I sit on my balcony (sometimes with a cup of cheap wine) and watch my husband and son play soccer or baseball.  The 3 of us gather in my son's room and play with his toys and laugh until its bedtime. My husband and I have the opportunity to get reacquainted with each other all over again, everyday. I'm not saying watching television hinders that because I know many couples who function just fine with it. For us, it works better this way.

Its been a freedom I didn't think I would enjoy. Not only is it saving us money, but we get to enjoy each other in the most organic form. It goes back to the idea of freeing myself from things that don't add value to my life. I don't encourage everyone to do it. Its not for everybody but I do encourage everyone to step back from it every once in awhile, step outside and get back to yourself, even take a break from social media every once in awhile. It can be all consuming. Anything in excess is dangerous to our souls, our minds and our spiritual walk, the three things we need to constantly keep in check.

We are living the life we planned on that porch during sunset in a small rural town 6 years ago tv free.

Freedom

Freedom

Grief

Grief